#283 Never Pass Up an Opportunity

I said to a friend, who was complaining about something his wife wanted — never pass up an opportunity to be generous! I say it to people who are appalled that I give roadside beggars money — never pass up an opportunity to be generous.

I’ll say it again and again — NEVER PASS UP AN OPPORTUNITY TO BE GENEROUS.

Generosity often includes money, but not always. Be generous with kindness, with time, with acceptance, with curiosity, with everything. If you start paying attention, you’ll see that there are dozens of times every day to practice generosity.

Never pass up an opportunity to be generous — genuine, open-hearted, open-handed, non-self-aggrandizing, joyful generosity.

#282 Gratitude+Curiosity

Sometimes I find myself wanting to CONTROL the outcome of a situation. Usually that takes some form of OBSESSING about the situation; some form of I WANT TO KNOW! That certainly is not helpful to me, nor has it ever proven to help a situation.

Now, instead of obsessing, I do two things. #1, I feel grateful about some aspect of the situation, and #2 I’m curious about how it’s all going to unfold, both the situation specifically, and life generally. That curiosity reminds me that there is SO MUCH I cannot know!

Really, I can only ever know two things — I live, and I will die. All the rest is just details. And with the details, the best I can ever do is to do my best. And I know this for sure — trying to control a situation by obsessing about it is not my best. Not even close!

My equation for staying sane in a trying situation: gratitude + curiosity = letting go. Or it could be stated this way: gratitude + curiosity = sanity. Or this way: gratitude + curiosity = self love.

#280 Separation, Connection

Expectations, regret, shame, worry, and blame all have something in common — they create a barrier between you and your life as it is unfolding in present time.
 
What else separates you from present time?
 
Appreciation, gratitude, conscious breathing, and fun all have something in common — they keep you grounded in present time.
What else keeps you connected to yourself in present time?

#279 Wedding Officiant

I just returned from officiating a wedding in Texas. It was awesome. Beautiful in every way. Yes, I can legally do that. So if you know anyone who is getting married and is looking for an officiant, feel free to point them to me. Here are some photos.

Me waiting in the wings before the ceremony.IMG_0110.JPG

Saying vows.

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Blessing rings.

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#278 Positive Words

This morning my water exercise instructor told us to close our eyes and think positive thoughts. Here’s a list of positive words. I suggest you read them aloud, to yourself or others. Pause long enough between words so you can get a sense of the word, but not long enough to begin arguing or nitpicking. It’s a long list. Try it. It will definitely brighten your day!

absolutely
adorable
accepted
acclaimed
accomplish
accomplishment
achievement
active
admire
adventure
affirmative
agree
agreeable
attractive
awesome
cool
courageous
creative
cute
dazzling
delight
delightful
prominent
protected
proud
quality
quick
quiet
ready
reassuring
refined
refreshing
rejoice
reliable
remarkable
resounding
respected
restored
reward
rewarding
champ
right
robust
seemly
safe
satisfactory
smile
secure
simple
skilled
skillful
soulful
sparkling
special
spirited
spiritual
stirring
amazing
angelic
appealing
approve
aptitude
stupendous
stunning
success
successful
super
superb
supporting
surprising
terrific
thorough
beaming
beautiful
believe
beneficial
sunny
bliss
instant
instantaneous
instinctive
intuitive
intellectual
bountiful
bounty
brave
bravo
brilliant
bubbly
calm
celebrated
certain
champion
charming
cheery
choice
classic
classical
clean
commend
composed
congratulation
constant
distinguished
divine
earnest
easy
ecstatic
effective
effervescent
efficient
pleasant
poised
polished
popular
positive
effortless
electrifying
elegant
enchanting
encouraging
endorsed
energetic
ethical
excellent
exciting
exquisite
fabulous
fair
familiar
famous
fantastic
favorable
fetching
fine
fitting
flourishing
fortunate
free
fresh
friendly
fun
funny
generous
genius
genuine
giving
good
gorgeous
graceful
great
green
grin
growing
handsome
happy
harmonious
healing
healthy
hearty
heavenly
honest
honorable
honored
hug
idea
ideal
imaginative
imagine
impressive
independent
innovate
innovative
valued
vibrant
victorious
victory
vigorous
virtuous
intelligent
inventive
jovial
joy
jubilant
keen
kind
knowing
knowledgeable
laugh
legendary
light
learned
lively
lovely
glamorous
glowing
lucid
lucky
luminous
marvelous
masterful
meaningful
merit
meritorious
energized
engaging
enthusiastic
essential
esteemed
miraculous
motivating
moving
natural
nice
novel
now
nurturing
nutritious
okay
one
one-hundred percent
open
optimistic
paradise
perfect
phenomenal
powerful
prepared
pretty
principled
productive
progress
thrilling
thriving
tops
tranquil
transforming
transformative
trusting
truthful
unwavering
up
upbeat
upright
upstanding
vital
vivacious
wealthy
welcome
well
whole
wholesome
pleasurable
plentiful
willing
wonderful
wondrous
worthy
wow
yes
yummy
zeal
zealous

 

#277 Lost Balance

I had a rough couple of months, and I lost my balance. Nothing terrible happened, just a series of troubling things.

A wise friend reminded me that I knew something about gratitude. She was right. So I returned to my practice of gratitude getting in the car. Remember that? What a difference it has made! (TENACITY NOTES #259)

And I returned to my 15 minutes of conscious breathing in the morning. I’m happy to report that I’ve regained my balance.

Of course, returning to these practices means that I had left them, which I’m sure had as much to do with me losing my balance as the troubling things did.

Live and learn!